Coping with the Effects of Divorce

Divorce, once finalized, is a decision that can drastically change your life forever. Divorce marks the end of an era during which you were one-half of the whole. Because of this, it is no wonder that coping with the effects of divorce can be extremely difficult. However, there are ways to make the transition into your new life easier

To get started with your new life, you must face reality. Accept what has happened. Tell yourself, “It is what it is.” You may not be able to move forward until you have given up on denial and embraced the changes that are going to come. You cannot change what has already happened, but you have control over where you may go from here.

The next step in getting back on your feet is to find and assemble a support network. Reach out to friends and family. Most people enjoy being asked for help–it makes them feel appreciated. This group of people should provide you with emotional support, professional guidance, and inspiration. When selecting your support network, reach out to people who support and value you. You want to surround yourself with positive people who listen to what you have to say. During this hard time, you need to be able to speak honestly about what you are going through without fear of being judged or criticized.

Now that you have a newfound sense of freedom, take the time to find your authentic self. Perhaps you had forgotten about old favorite hobbies when you entered your marriage. Now is the time to rediscover old passions, and discover new ones while you are at it, too. Explore interests you never had a chance to in the past. These can be ways to redefine yourself as well as letting go of your grief in a positive way.

Going through a divorce is an emotionally exhausting process, but it is possible to efficiently cope with the effects and create a new and improved life for yourself. If you and your spouse are considering filing for divorce, do not go through it alone. Contact an experienced Illinois divorce attorney at Abear Law Offices to assist you with the process. We offer five convenient Chicagoland locations in Wheaton, St. Charles, Naperville, Warrenville, and downtown.